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Inner vs. Outer Worlds

One of my greatest coping mechanisms after my trauma was learning how to seem "okay" and even "successful" in my outer world as my inner world spun out of control. The technique helped me stop getting in trouble with my family, and helped me feel in control of my life. For a long time I even believed that I was okay because I had it all together on the outside. How wrong I was! I learned that lesson when my outer world stopped working for me. My heart kept calling out to me to heal beneath my successes through forms such as anxiety, insomnia, and depression. Friends from that time in my life might not have noticed, and I wonder if many of them may have...

Trusting your Heart

Our hearts are the inner compasses that guide our lives. They are our connection to Source. When we heed our hearts' wishes, we honor our truest selves. We may choose to ignore it, especially when its yearnings seem hard or not in keeping with our ego's wishes, but we will eventually return to it. When we honor our hearts, we step into our truest natures. Following the thread of my heart led me to my greatest healing. By getting still and quiet, I learned my heart's wishes. It also eventually led to my experience of the Divine. In the beginning, honoring my heart was a joyful exercise. I was happy to have found a connection to my truest self after being so disconnected. While connecting to my...

Dream Power

I'm late getting this blog post up today! I slept later than usual this morning thanks to several wake-ups by my daughter last night, and by the time I woke up it was time to begin the day. This is the first quiet moment I've had since, and it's after 9 pm. Such is life. As grateful as I am for my full life, these quiet moments to write keep me whole. I wanted to write tonight about the beauty and power of dreams in the healing process. Though I am not certified in dreamwork and I haven't taken any courses in it, I've experienced for myself the ability that dreams have to change our lives if we pay attention to them. Many times along my path...

Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020!

The 2020s have so much potential for new change for growth, healing, love, and peace, and I've been thinking a lot these past few days about my vision for 2020. What would you like to experience in 2020? Are you making a vision board? Writing a list of goals or resolutions? Or forgoing the whole thing to live in the moment? As for me, I am hoping that in 2020 I can continue the work I've done personally to share my story with a wider audience. It hasn't been easy for my ego to let go of its tight hold on how I present myself to others. I've kept my stories hidden as a protective tactic. I hope I can continue to share and remember my reason for...

Staying Focused

When you have discerned what your heart is calling for, it's important to stay focused on it. Bring your awareness and attention back to your heart truth regularly in meditation and throughout the day. It's so easy for the breezes and winds of life to redirect your sails if you don't steer with awareness. Focus on where your heart is leading you. I have often had a hard time with focus in my life. Even after my experience of the light, I often and willfully decided that I would ignore it. I would get distracted and pay attention to the other many things going on in my life to find, years later, my heart was still calling to me to do the same things I had...

Remaining in Peace

Happy Wednesday! I hope you had a good Thanksgiving. Mine ended up being awesome, with a beautiful time spent with my sister and family. And now we're already in December. I'm so excited for the holidays that are coming up so quickly! I wanted to write today about remaining in peace amidst difficulty and strife. It's something that's come up for me this week as I've been navigating some heavier emotions. I can't pinpoint exactly why, but it feels a lot like worrying about the earth, nature, and the many people who are suffering. I don't even know at this point whether I'm projecting or not - in therapy in the past, that was often the summation. But our earth is going through a lot. Climate...

Come as You Are

I’ve just arrived at my sister’s house today after traveling halfway across the country for Thanksgiving. I’m so happy to be here! My family, her family, our parents, brothers and sisters-in-law are coming together to celebrate the holiday. As our families come together this week, it has made me think about how valuable and important it is to accept people for who they are. No family is perfect, and no person is perfect, but each one is who they’re meant to be.   Of course, I’ve grown in this area, and self-care is still important. Sometimes we have to take time for ourselves and set our boundaries. But today, right now, I’m really happy to have the kooky cast of characters that is my family. I love...

Hope in Things Unseen

In times of sadness or confusion, it helps me to remember that we are part of a greater, Godly reality. This week I've felt the pressure of parenting, career, finances, marriage, and holiday stress. It's easy to get lost in the tangible world and lose the tether to our greater reason for being here. While I love the bliss I experienced when I initially had my encounter with the Divine, and I attempt to connect to that peace regularly through prayer and meditation, I'm just not always going to feel that connected, joyful, and peaceful. This week was one of those times. I have felt stress. I have worried. I have wished for peace. When that happens, as it does, it helps me to get still, breathe,...

Doing Things you Love

When the world seems to be mired in suffering, it can feel selfish and a little pointless to do the things you love, but it is at those times that your joy is most important. The world benefits as much as you do from your healing, loving, shining heart. What brings you to that place of joy? What helps you feel love? When I was at my most depressed, I didn’t even know what joy felt like, much less what could help me feel it. I remember for a while, the only thing that helped me feel better was singing Christmas carols. So I did that. Over time I’ve found more and more things that bring me joy. Healing has been an interplay of moving towards joy,...

Forgiving Yourself

What does it mean to forgive yourself? In my life, forgiving myself means returning my heart to the true love of God, stopping the negative self-talk reels that can loop again and again in my mind, and having a soft approach to myself and my heart. It can be so easy to be so hard on ourselves when we’re faced with past mistakes and let downs, but we all need to remember that we’re all here to learn, grow, and become. We weren’t born knowing everything – that’s why we were born. “Hurt people, hurt people.” – Will Bowen This wise quote has truly helped me to remember that the times when I’d acted out and hurt others in the past were truly out of my own...